What’s Yours to Hold (and What Isn’t)

We all carry things that aren’t ours.

• A parent’s anxiety

• A partner’s expectations

• A friend’s silence

• A therapist’s hope

• A healer’s plan

At some point, our system starts to feel cluttered—not from what’s broken inside of us, but from what’s been placed on us.

Sometimes, it’s not what we’re feeling that’s overwhelming…
It’s everything we’ve taken in from other people’s feelings.

Zone B: The Space Around You That Holds What You Can’t

In Craniosacral Therapy, we recognize something called Zone B—an sensory layer around the body that holds what can’t be processed in the moment.

As embryos, we used our mother’s field—her body, breath, and presence—to hold the things we couldn’t resolve. That’s not dysfunction. It’s intelligence.

But even now, we still project:

• Emotions we can’t digest

• Stress we don’t have time to feel

• Needs we’re not ready to name

All of it leaks into our personal field or onto others and clutters our nervous system’s ability to regulate.

Why Hands-On Work Can Only Go So Far

As a massage therapist for 25 years, I saw this every day:
Someone gets relief, clarity, or stillness… but it doesn’t last. Why?

Because their tissue has relaxed—but their unconscious sensory layers are still holding what their conscious nervous system couldn't.

That’s why I created The Observatory: to give you a way to reset your sensory layers and the unprocessed charges that cause physical tension between sessions.

From Projection to Personal Power

In Part 1 of our May series, I guided participants to gently clear their Zone B—to notice what they had projected outward and invite it back, or release it with presence.

In Part 2, we take it further:

What are you still holding that was never yours?
What needs are still waiting for someone else to meet?
And what if the version of you who can meet them… already exists?

This isn’t about over-responsibility. It’s about conscious choice.

Boundaries aren’t walls. They’re definitions of what you want to carry—based on what brings peace, clarity, and vitality.

What You’ll Experience in the Session

• A short guided check-in using the Snow Globe

• A practice to recognize what you’ve outsourced or inherited

• A visualization to reclaim your field and clarify your boundaries

• A soft, grounded close to help your body integrate it all

This is deep healing work—but it’s done through gentleness, not force. You’re not fixing yourself. You’re meeting yourself.

✨ Want In?

If you’re reading this before the third Sunday in May, you can still join the next live session:
👉 Register for this month’s session

If you’ve already missed it, you can still access the replay, plus future sessions, by joining the full Observatory membership:
👉 Join the Observatory

Either way, I hope you take a moment to notice what you’re carrying—and to ask:

Is this mine?
Is this helpful?
Am I willing to let this go?

You don’t have to carry everything.
And that’s what healing is all about.